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<p>"It says something about our times that we rarely use the word sinful, except to describe a really good dessert." - Willard D. Ferrell</p>
<p>How do you view sin? Most believers would respond to that question with the standard Sunday School answer. "It is bad"; "I stay away from it all I can"; or maybe "Mine is forgiven...". We cannot answer the question accurately unless we understand the definition of sin, and can define sin. Let's consider some personal questions: Is obesity sin? Is racism sin? Is swearing sin? What about sporadic church attendance? Coarse joking? Complaining? Not tithing? Are these big sins or little sins?</p>
<p>How did you answer these questions? What makes a sin a sin? Are there big sins and little sins? Sins that God will punish and sins what God will overlook? Many believers certainly act that way, as if God will excuse our sins because they are 'small' and 'unimportant'. Would you drink a quart of water if it had only a drop of strychnine in it? A church member said to me once, "Pastor Mike, you know that sin in the life of a believer is different than sin in the life of an unbeliever." I said to them, "Yes it is; its WORSE!"</p>
<p>In 1 Corinthians 5 &amp; 6 the Apostle Paul talks about sexual sin. But his instructions and warnings are applicable to all sin; and there is one central truth we MUST embrace: There is no such thing as a little sin! We fail to be grieved by sin when we view it as insignificant or not as bad as something else. We tend to categorize sin according to what seems bad to us. What I habitually overlook in my own life isn't as bad as what I tend to see in the lives of others. This attitude reflects a skewed and thoroughly unbiblical view of sin.</p>
<p>We read of the sexual sin being tolerated in the Corinthian church in 1 Corinthians 5:1-2 and are shocked. But our abhorrence of sin should be parallel to God's; He is shocked and sickened by ALL sin. Any sin left to grow will lead to suffering, destruction, and death. It is the nature of sin to produce these things. This is what Jesus came to rescue us from, to provide deliverance from the power of sin, the punishment of sin, and one day from the very presence of sin. When we who are redeemed from sin choose to return and wallow in it, or passively allow it to remain in our midst, God is grieved and Kingdom work is stifled.</p>
<p>As disciples of Jesus Christ we are to emulate Him in all we do and say. He, the Sinless One, is our role model. Do not let sin gain a foothold! Wage war by the power of the Spirit in your mind. Flee from every hint of sexual immorality. Exercise the spiritual man by practicing the spiritual disciplines of bible study, prayer, meditation, worship, and witnessing. The believer should view sin as a serious allergy: even a hint of it is harmful! It must not be allowed to remain in our lives, or in our local faith community.</p>
<p>In 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 the Apostle Paul gives instructions the forbid fellowshipping with a fellow-believer that openly practices sin. The best-known process for dealing with sinful brethren is Jesus' own words in Matthew 18:15-17. Revulsion over sin and remorse over our brother should motivate us to rebuke their sin and seek to restore them to right fellowship with God and the church. Their own good, and the work of the Kingdom demands it.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>BSFL Life Truths Sunday School commentary for the week of March 7, 2010</title><category term="Sunday School Commentary"/><category term="church"/><category term="conflict"/><category term="divisions"/><category term="immaturity"/><category term="pride"/><category term="strife"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/3/2/bsfl-life-truths-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-ma.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/3/2/bsfl-life-truths-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-ma.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-03-02T14:31:43Z</published><updated>2010-03-02T14:31:43Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><strong>Fractured?</strong>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; 1 Corinthians 1,3<span class="full-image-float-right ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 200px;" src="http://michaeldstover.squarespace.com/storage/post-images/fractured.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1267540406891" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>I remember first discussing the options for writing this latest Sunday School material assignment for Bible Studies for Life - Life Truths. The Life Truths editor and I discussed writing on marriage or church conflict. We laughed at the similarities between the two! Although my wife and I will soon be celebrating 19 glorious and wonderful years of marriage, I still consider myself to be in a serious learning curve when it comes to marriage. Considering my past years of ministry, I really have more experience with church conflict!</p>
<p>That is not to say, however, that I have learned to deal effectively with every conflict that may arise in the local church. Sometimes churches can act and react in ways that defy rational explanation. Many of you reading this could supply examples from your own painful experiences. It is not my intention to air dirty laundry from the past or to tear down any local church. With the material I was privileged to author, and with these blog posts, it is my firm purpose to direct our attention to the Scriptures as our guide for healing from church hurts, and prevention from more of the same.</p>
<p>Paul wrote this first letter to a troubled church at Corinth. It is evident that he had received troubled news from this church that he had founded earlier, and so wrote to offer much-needed instruction to guide them through these rough spiritual and relational shoals. This week as we examine 1 Corinthians 1:10-15,26-29 it becomes clear that there were serious fractures in the Corinthian church. Misplaced loyalties and rotten human pride were evident in their words and actions. However, the crux of the problem is found in 1 Corinthians 3:1-4. Paul accuses the Corinthian believers as being "fleshly" and "living like ordinary people" (vs. 3). He uses a bit of creative word play to capture his readers' attention in verses 1 and 3. In 3:1 "flesh" (Greek sarkinos) is literally 'made of flesh'. In 3:3 "fleshly" (Greek sarkikos) is more accurately 'characterized by the flesh'. What is the difference? &nbsp;There is no blame attached to those who are babes in Christ (3:1) when they act like babes. It is expected. But when those who have been Christians for years still act like babes, "characterized by the flesh" (3:3) and not the Spirit, this is scandalous.</p>
<p>Earlier in 1 Corinthians 1:10 Paul expressed his desire that the Corinthians be "united". This is a word that means to restore something to its rightful condition. It is used of James and John in Matthew 4:21 when they are "mending" their nets after a night of fishing. He also expresses in verse 10 his desire that there be no "divisions" among them. This word is the Greek <em>schisma</em>, and is the origin of our word "schism", which means a division. In John 21:11 when the disciples caught an enormous amount of fish, the text says there were no "schisms" in the net; no divisions, tears, or fractures that would allow fish to fall through and be lost.</p>
<p>What a picture of what church conflict does to our efforts for Christ's Kingdom! When churches fight and divide, a rift is made in our witness and precious souls needing Christ are turned off by us and slip through the gaps. How important is it, then, to heal these fractures in the fellowship? It is vital!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Growing Love That Lasts a Lifetime</title><category term="Christ"/><category term="Making Love Last a Lifetime"/><category term="commitment"/><category term="endurance"/><category term="hope"/><category term="love"/><category term="truth"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/23/growing-love-that-lasts-a-lifetime.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/23/growing-love-that-lasts-a-lifetime.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-02-23T20:15:58Z</published><updated>2010-02-23T20:15:58Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 550px;" src="http://michaeldstover.squarespace.com/storage/TitleHeader.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1266956190754" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Section Three</span></strong><strong>: Growing Love That Lasts a Lifetime</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">"<em>Love....bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.</em>"</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">1 Corinthians 13:7-8 (NKJV)</p>
<p>In the movie '<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.fireproofthemovie.com/" target="_blank">Fireproof</a></span>', Caleb Holt's friend Michael Simmons makes the following statement: "Do you know what that ring on your finger means? It means that you made a lifelong covenant. The sad part about it is when most people say 'for better or for worse', they really only mean for the better."</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </strong><strong>Love 'Bears All Things'</strong></p>
<p>The word 'bears' literally means 'to cover silently or protectively'. When our spouse or child makes a blunder we are faced with three choices:</p>
<ul>
<li>Express our disappointment to the point of demeaning their character and deflating their spirit. </li>
<li>Belittle them for embarrassing us, thereby transferring your shame to them. </li>
<li>Minimize their hurt, shame, embarrassment, and pain by lovingly protecting them and supporting them. </li>
</ul>
<p>"<em>And above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins</em>." 1 Peter 4:8 (NKJV)</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;II.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </strong><strong>Love 'Believes All Things'</strong></p>
<p>Love is always eager to believe the best. Love gives the benefit of the doubt.</p>
<p>&ldquo;<em>Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy&mdash;meditate on these things</em>.&rdquo; Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)</p>
<p><strong></strong><strong>&nbsp;III.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Love 'Hopes All Things'</strong></p>
<p>We must embrace hope in our relationships! In 1 Corinthians 13:13 hope is linked to faith and love as the greatest Christian virtues. Hope allows us to love someone in the present while banking on a better future with them tomorrow.</p>
<p>&ldquo;<em>And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose</em>.&rdquo; Romans 8:28 (NKJV)</p>
<p><strong>&nbsp;IV.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Love 'Endures All Things'</strong></p>
<p>This phrase literally means 'to remain under the load'. Take a look at the most common wedding vows:</p>
<ul>
<li>Love</li>
<li>Honor</li>
<li>Cherish</li>
<li>Forsaking All Others</li>
<li>Richer or Poorer</li>
<li>Better or Worse</li>
<li>Sickness and Health</li>
<li>Until death do you Part</li>
</ul>
<p>These vows are bristling with commitment. Love that lasts a lifetime means commitment. Commitment means you never leave your partner, especially in a fire.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Actions:</span></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>PRAY -</strong> Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to confess all negative actions toward your spouse or children as SIN. Ask God to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Choose one of the four attributes above and focus on it for a week. </li>
<li><strong>MEMORIZE -</strong> Memorize all of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with sacrificial love, particularly Christ's love for the church that is the model for our marriage relationships. </li>
<li><strong>ACT -</strong> Choose one of the four attributes above and focus on it for a week. Share these truths with your spouse and tell them of your commitment to love them for the long haul. </li>
</ul>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Resources</span>:</p>
<p><strong><em><a href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/making-love-last-for-a-lifetime/EquippingforaLifetimeofLoving_3old.doc" target="_blank">The 5 Love languages</a></em></strong>, by Dr. Gary Chapman. Northfield Publishing. ISBN - 0802473156.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/making-love-last-for-a-lifetime/EquippingforaLifetimeofLoving_2old.doc" target="_blank">This material in a downloadable file</a> (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Defending Against Love Assassins</title><category term="Making Love Last a Lifetime"/><category term="assassins"/><category term="courtesy"/><category term="humility"/><category term="love"/><category term="rage"/><category term="resentment"/><category term="rivalry"/><category term="rudeness"/><category term="self-control"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/18/defending-against-love-assassins.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/18/defending-against-love-assassins.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-02-18T20:33:04Z</published><updated>2010-02-18T20:33:04Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 550px;" src="http://michaeldstover.squarespace.com/storage/TitleHeader.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1266525250822" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Section Two</span></strong><strong>: Defending Against Love Assassins</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">"<em>Love....does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil</em>."</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV)</p>
<p>The Bible is full of shady characters. One of those was an assassin named Ehud. You can find his story tucked away in Judges 3:12-30.&nbsp;</p>
<p>After 18 years of serving Eglon, the King of Moab, the Israelites prayed for a deliverer. And God answered their prayers by raising up Ehud, a southpaw from the tribe of Benjamin. As his first official act he led a delegation of Jews to deliver the tribute tax, to King Eglon. Unknown to his traveling companions, Ehud had made a two-edge dagger and concealed it under his clothes on his right thigh.</p>
<p>Once he had delivered the tribute, Ehud returned to Eglon's palace pretending to have a secret message from God for the King. King Eglon sent everyone from the room and locked the door. When the King stood up Ehud plunged the dagger under Eglon's ribs, striking a fatal blow. Ehud then escaped through the back window. By the time anyone knows what has happened, Ehud has brought an army back to defeat the Moabites and free the Israelites.</p>
<p>Now you may be wandering what that story has to do with "Making Love Last a Lifetime." Not much, except this - today we will learn about assassins. With a quick stroke of his pen, Paul identifies four assassins. We call them "love assassins" because of the damage they inflict on loving relationships. Chances are, you have felt the pain of one of these attacks on your relationships.</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Love Assassin #1: Rudeness - </strong>The word 'rude' literally means 'ugly', or 'shapeless'. Love doesn't embarrass others publicly, behave shamefully, act tactless or disgraceful, or treat others rudely. </li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Love's Defense Against Rudeness</span> - <strong><em>Courtesy</em></strong>. Love acts with grace and respect toward others, especially those in our closest relationships. "<em>Therefore, God's chosen ones, holy and loved, put on heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience</em>." Colossians 3:12 (HCSB)</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Love Assassin #2: Rivalry - </strong>"...<em>does not seek its own</em>" is literally 'not seeking one's self', or 'not seeking to advance one's self'. Love doesn't insist on its own way or engage in unhealthy competition.</li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Love's Defense Against Rivalry</span> - <strong><em>Humility</em></strong>. It is simply putting others first. "<em>Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others</em>." Philippians 2:3-4 (NKJV)</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Love Assassin #3: Rage - </strong>Rage literally means 'to sharpen alongside'. The sharp anger of rage is the rage of the day. We see it displayed everywhere. Truly our culture is easily 'provoked'.</li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Love's Defense Against Rage</span> - <strong><em>Self-Control</em></strong>. Love assumes the best and does not make rash judgments. When we are under control we demonstrate love and consideration. "<em>But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is now law</em>." Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Love Assassin #4: Resentment - </strong>"Thinks no evil" in verse 5 is literally 'keeps no record of injuries'. Love doesn't keep a diary of disappointment or the threat of retaliation. When we relive the hurts from others, we are keeping them fresh in our memory and cultivating resentment and anger.</li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Love's Defense Against Resentment</span> - <strong><em>Forgiveness</em></strong>. Forgiving means forgetting! Forgiveness includes choosing not to allow hurts that have been forgiven to affect our decision-making, attitudes, or actions. "<em>If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear</em>." Psalm 66:18 (NKJV)</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Actions:</span></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>PRAY -</strong> Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to confess these love assassins as SIN. Ask Him to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Choose one defense a week and pray for that attribute to bloom. </li>
<li><strong>MEMORIZE -</strong> Memorize all five of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with courtesy, humility, self-control, and forgiveness. </li>
<li><strong>ACT -</strong> Take any actions necessary to eliminate these assassins from your relationship. </li>
</ul>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Resources</span>:</p>
<p><strong><em><a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.lifeway.com/e4/shop/?id=005163304" target="_blank">Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices that Make or Break Loving Relationships</a></em></strong>, by Henry Cloud &amp; John Townsend. Zondervan Publishing Company. ISBN - 0310278139</p>
<p><a href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/making-love-last-for-a-lifetime/EquippingforaLifetimeofLoving_2old.doc" target="_blank">This material in a downloadable file</a> (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Content With Your House &amp; With Your Spouse</title><category term="God"/><category term="Making Love Last a Lifetime"/><category term="bible"/><category term="contentment"/><category term="envy"/><category term="love"/><category term="marriage"/><category term="study"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/17/content-with-your-house-with-your-spouse.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/17/content-with-your-house-with-your-spouse.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-02-17T20:25:01Z</published><updated>2010-02-17T20:25:01Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 550px;" src="http://michaeldstover.squarespace.com/storage/TitleHeader.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1266440169959" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!</p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Section One</span></strong><strong>: Battling Envy &amp; Cultivating Contentment</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">"<em>Love suffers long&nbsp;and is kind; <span style="text-decoration: underline;">love does not envy</span>; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up</em>."</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV)</p>
<p>Envy has a long and sordid past with its origin in the very heart of Satan. Isaiah 14:12-15 records Satan's jealousy of God's throne and deity, and his desire to steal them away. Ever since envy became his own downfall, Satan has realized its power for the destruction of human relationships. From Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden to the present day, mankind boils with envy for what belongs to another. In fact, the Greek word for envy is 'zelo', literally meaning "to boil".</p>
<p>Envy does not just grow overnight, like dandelions. It develops over time.</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stage One</span>: <strong><em>Discontentment </em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">We become discontent with unfulfilled expectations. Never mind that our expectations are unreasonable or even impossible. We have made unequal and unfair comparisons to which no one can measure up.</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stage Two</span>: <strong><em>Disillusionment </em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">Confusion sets in due to our unfulfilled expectations. "I never thought it would be like this..." We become negative toward that which does not measure up.</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stage Three</span>: <strong><em>Deception </em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">The unfair comparisons intensify. We deceive ourselves into thinking that something or someone else is better. But we cannot see the whole picture, only the outer facade. We become infatuated with an illusion.</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stage Four</span>: <strong><em>Desire </em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">We become convinced that the illusion can bring happiness or significance. We fool ourselves into thinking that we cannot live without it.</p>
<ul>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stage Five</span>: <strong><em>Destruction </em></strong></li>
</ul>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">We chase the illusion no matter what the cost to our current relationship. And then we discover that it is just an illusion. No one could possibly be as perfect as we had thought. Our relationship is now severely damaged. We have crashed and burned.</p>
<p>The music video "Slow Fade" by Casting Crowns gives a poignant illustration to this process.</p>
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<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>How can we battle envy and cultivate contentment?</strong></p>
<ol>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Confess</span> the SIN of Envy - It is a brutal sin that made God's TOP TEN list! (Ten Commandments - Number 10: "You shall not covet" [envy] Exodus 20:17) Confession must be followed by repentance! Turn away in sorrow from envy and ask God's help to defeat it completely! "<em>For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there</em>." James 3:16 (NKJV)</li>
<li><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Control</span> Your Thoughts - Your mind is the front line of the battleground for your relationship. Build adequate defenses! We cannot always control or avoid temptation, but we can control our mind. Eliminate whatever tempts you to compare and envy.&nbsp;"<em>Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ</em>." 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NKJV)</li>
<li>Cultivate <span style="text-decoration: underline;">Contentment</span> - Love is content with the object of its affection. Love is a decision, not a ficle emotion. Choose to love your spouse unconditionally and choose to be content. Stop looking to others and making comparisons. Choose to be satisfied with what (and who) you have. "<em>Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have</em>." Hebrews 13:5a (NKJV)</li>
</ol>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Actions:</span></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>PRAY -</strong> Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to control your thoughts and resist temptation. Ask Him to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Confess your struggle to him or her and ask them to agree in prayer with you. </li>
<li><strong>MEMORIZE -</strong> Memorize all four of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with envy, covetousness, and contentment. </li>
<li><strong>ACT</strong> - Take any actions necessary to remove the temptation to compare (let Philippians 4:8 be your guide). </li>
</ul>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Suggested Resources</span>:</p>
<p><strong><em><a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.lifeway.com/e7/shop/?id=005180605" target="_blank">The Love Dare</a></em></strong>, by Stephen and Alex Kendrick. B&amp;H Publishing Group. ISBN - 0805448853</p>
<p><strong><em><a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.lifeway.com/e3/shop/?N=4294881450&amp;INTCMP=WN20100211-Secret-Marriage-You-Want&amp;nru=2" target="_blank">The Secret to the Marriage You Want</a></em></strong>, by Drs. Les &amp; Leslie Parrott. Lifeway Church Resources. ISBN - 1415868166 (member book)</p>
<p><a href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/making-love-last-for-a-lifetime/EquippingforaLifetimeofLoving_1old.doc" target="_blank">This material in a downloadable file</a> (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>BSFL Sunday School Commentary for the week of February 14, 2010</title><category term="Christ"/><category term="Sunday School Commentary"/><category term="accomplishments"/><category term="change"/><category term="mind"/><category term="pride"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/9/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-february-14-20.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/2/9/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-february-14-20.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-02-09T20:42:21Z</published><updated>2010-02-09T20:42:21Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><strong>Change Your Mind</strong>&nbsp; Philippians 3<span class="full-image-float-right ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 200px;" src="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/changeyourmind.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1265748294120" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>What do you depend on to know God and to know Him better? God is not impressed with our family history, church attendance record, giving receipts, or personal accomplishments. We will each be judged according to what we have done with Jesus Christ and how He has been Lord of our lives. Salvation is not only about deliverance from eternal judgment, but is also about a dynamic relationship with Christ on a deeper level that changes our entire lives. Do you know Christ as Savior and Lord? Has your relationship with Him changed your manner of living?</p>
<p>In 2007, <a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.lifeway.com/article/?id=168403" target="_blank">LifeWay Research surveyed</a> 2500 American adults who attended a Protestant church once a month or more. Only 36% of respondents agreed strongly with this statement: "With reference to my values and priorities, I can honestly say that I try to put God first in my life." Knowing Christ better should be every Christian's goal, and this passion should be reflected in our values, priorities, and our way of thinking.</p>
<p>In Philippians 3 the Apostle Paul talks about what he used to rely on to know God vs. what he then relied upon to know God. He had cast away his former resume' and pedigree and instead embraced Christ alone. He had to change his mind about what was important. When he did, his manner of thinking regarding knowing God and spiritual growth changed. This chapter in Philippians was penned primarily to refute the false doctrine of a group known as the Judaizers. These were a group of Jews who denied the grace of God and the work of Christ in salvation, adding or substituting human effort to obtain it. Their dogma was 'Christ plus works'.</p>
<p>Paul admitted that he knew well the religion of works to impress God; he had lived it to the farthest degree himself. He had long relied upon his lineage, pedigree, and resume' of accomplishments as a means to get ahead with God and with others. But once he discovered the spiritual circumcision of the heart that even the Law of Moses demands (Deuteronomy 10:16; 30:6), he stopped boasting in all he had accomplished and began trusting and glorying in what Christ has accomplished. In fact, the language he chooses to describe his former accomplishments is quite graphic. He considers them all to be filth; the Greek word here is literally manure. To him, everything paled in significance to knowing Christ.</p>
<p>This is the mind-set of maturity, to seek to know Christ in a dynamic, ever-deepening relationship. Paul's expression of this desire is one of the best-known passages of the New Testament (3:10-14). Review these verses carefully. Do they express your desire to know Christ? Is He more valuable than all you have and all you are? If not, you need to <strong><em>Change Your Mind! </em></strong></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Southern Baptists Respond in Haiti</title><category term="General"/><category term="Haiti"/><category term="IMB"/><category term="SBC"/><category term="Southern Baptist Convention"/><category term="missions"/><category term="resources"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/23/southern-baptists-respond-in-haiti.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/23/southern-baptists-respond-in-haiti.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-01-23T16:28:17Z</published><updated>2010-01-23T16:28:17Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p>Watch the most recent video from the <a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.imb.org" target="_blank">IMB</a> of the <a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.sbc.net" target="_blank">SBC</a> below. Then click on the link below to download the resources mentioned.</p>
<p><embed style="width:560px; height:375px;" id="mediaviewer" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://mediaviewer.mediasuite.org/mediaviewer.swf" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent" flashvars="&mvid=10528&mvidext=flv&autoplay=false"> </embed></p>
<p>Read more and download resources <a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.imb.org/main/news/details.asp?StoryID=8328&amp;LanguageID=1709" target="_blank">here</a>.&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>Continue to pray for earthquake victims</strong> and their families, for God&rsquo;s  mercy and compassion and that many will turn to Him in their hour of need. <strong>Post your own prayers</strong> for the people of Haiti on the blog <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34753/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">IMB Prayer Director.</a></p>
<p><strong>You can <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34755/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">make a contribution</a></strong> toward the ongoing  relief effort.  Initial  funding<strong> </strong>for the relief effort is  coming come from IMB&rsquo;s disaster relief fund.</p>
<p><strong>Check back</strong> at <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34757/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">imb.org</a> for news and  prayer updates.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>BSFL Sunday School commentary for the week of January 24, 2010</title><category term="Sunday School Commentary"/><category term="bible"/><category term="contentment"/><category term="greed"/><category term="satisfaction"/><category term="wealth"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/21/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-january-24-201.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/21/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-january-24-201.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-01-21T19:45:26Z</published><updated>2010-01-21T19:45:26Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><strong>Wrestling With Stuff</strong>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Ecclesiastes 2,5</p>
<p>We exchange our lives for the things we buy. But is what we buy worth the price we pay in terms of the time we spend accumulating it? Every verse in Ecclesiastes 2:4-8 begins with "I". By adding every occurrence of <em>I</em>, <em>my</em>, <em>myself</em>, and <em>me</em>, we arrive at a total of 16 references to self in the Holman Christian Standard Bible, and actually 19 in the Hebrew. Solomon was evaluating a time in his life when he was centered on self. He had such an "I" problem this passage is called the "gospel of selfishness".</p>
<p>In verse 10 he states "<em>All that my eyes desired, I did not deny them</em>." Can the same be said of us? Look at the following graphic, taken from USA Today:</p>
<p><span class="full-image-float-left ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 350px;" src="http://www.michaeldstover.com/storage/spendingstatistic.bmp?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1264103286901" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>We live in an era where storage is big business. We have so much that we refuse to release, we have to pay others to store it for us, or buy a building ourselves to house our trinkets. No one ever had more than Solomon, and after piling it all up he said, "<em>When I considered all that I had accomplished and what I had labored to achieve, I found everything to be futile and a pursuit of the wind</em>" Ecclesiastes 2:11(HCSB).</p>
<p>What benefit is the over-accumulation of worldly possessions? The old popular bumper sticker that said, "He who dies with the most toys - wins!" is a gross lie! He who dies with the most toys, still dies, still must face God in judgment, and leaves the toys for the relatives to fight over. "<em>What will it benefit a man if he gains the whole world yet loses his life? Or what will a man give in exchange for his life</em>?" Matthew 16:26 (HCSB) My pastor used to say "There is nothing wrong with having things, so long as things do not have you". That statement is true; but the difficulty is possessing things and not allowing them to possess you.</p>
<p>We must find our sense of sufficiency and self-worth not in the amount of things we possess, but in our relationship with God through Jesus Christ. "<em>As he came from his mother's womb, so he will go again, naked as he came; he will take nothing for his efforts that he can carry in his hands</em>" Ecclesiastes 5:15 (HCSB). Only when we invest in what is eternal will we find wealth that lasts. Only three things in this world are eternal: Christ's Kingdom, the Word of God, and people. Only what is invested in those three will last for eternity.</p>
<p>In Philippians 4 the Apostle Paul wrote the most powerful words on contentment from a prison cell. He wrote that he had learned a secret all of us should learn. Learning contentment (4:10-13) can only be done through Kingdom investment (4:14-18) and trusting completely in God's promised endowment (4:19). When our lives are fully and completely in His hands, we stop worrying about what we have or do not have, and we begin enjoying the abundance He provides!</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Help for Haiti</title><category term="General"/><category term="Haiti"/><category term="SBC"/><category term="disaster"/><category term="earthquake"/><category term="relief"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/15/help-for-haiti.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/15/help-for-haiti.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-01-15T20:39:17Z</published><updated>2010-01-15T20:39:17Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p>More than 2 million people in Haiti&rsquo;s capital, Port-au-Prince, and many more throughout the country are in desperate need of water, food, shelter and medical care following the catastrophic earthquake Jan. 12. ﻿</p>
<p><embed style="width:560px; height:375px;" id="mediaviewer" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" src="http://mediaviewer.mediasuite.org/mediaviewer.swf" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent" flashvars="&mvid=10461&mvidext=flv&autoplay=false"> </embed></p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong><a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34752/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">Share or download a video plea</a></strong> to cry out to God on behalf of the people of Haiti from Gordon Fort, IMB&rsquo;s vice president for Global Strategy. With IMB&rsquo;s video viewer, you can also embed this video to use live on your own church Web site, blogs and other social networking sites.</p>
<p><strong>Pray for wisdom</strong> for a Southern Baptist assessment team going into Haiti as quickly as possible to coordinate relief efforts with Haitian Baptist leaders. <strong>Continue to pray for earthquake victims</strong> and their families, for God&rsquo;s  mercy and compassion and that many will turn to Him in their hour of need. <strong>Post your own prayers</strong> for the people of Haiti on the blog <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34753/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">IMB Prayer Director.</a></p>
<p><strong>You can <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34755/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">make a contribution</a></strong> toward the ongoing  relief effort.  Initial  funding<strong> </strong>for the relief effort is  coming come from IMB&rsquo;s disaster relief fund.</p>
<p><strong>Check back</strong> at <a class="offsite-link-inline" title="This external link will open in a new window" href="http://youradmin.imbresources.org/index.cfm/fa/ct.go/LID/34757/m/8266/sID/0803JC405AAEA850A0A87A541.cfm" target="_blank">imb.org</a> for news and  prayer updates.</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>BSFL Sunday School commentary for the week of January 17, 2010</title><category term="God"/><category term="Sunday School Commentary"/><category term="bible"/><category term="help"/><category term="hope"/><category term="injustice"/><category term="justice"/><id>http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/13/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-january-17-201.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.michaeldstover.com/blog/2010/1/13/bsfl-sunday-school-commentary-for-the-week-of-january-17-201.html"/><author><name>Michael Stover</name></author><published>2010-01-13T17:41:27Z</published><updated>2010-01-13T17:41:27Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><strong>Wrestling with Injustice</strong>&nbsp;&nbsp; Ecclesiastes 3,4,8</p>
<p>As I write this I am keeping up with news reports from Haiti, where a devastating 7.0 magnitude earthquake shook the tiny island on Tuesday afternoon. President Barak Obama said, "For a country and a people who are no strangers to hardship and suffering, this tragedy seems especially cruel and incomprehensible." (<a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.cnn.com/2010/WORLD/americas/01/13/haiti.earthquake/index.html" target="_blank">http://www.cnn.com/2010/WORLD/americas/01/13/haiti.earthquake/index.html</a>) In Ecclesiastes 8:6-8, Solomon proclaims, "<em>For every activity there is a right time and procedure, even though man&rsquo;s troubles are heavy on him.&nbsp;Yet no one knows what will happen, because who can tell him what will happen?&nbsp;No one has authority over the wind to restrain it, and there is no authority over the day of death; there is no furlough in battle, and wickedness will not allow those who practice it to escape</em>." (HCSB)</p>
<p>The Bible says in numerous places that God loves justice (see Psalm 11:7; 33:5; 99:4). Simply put, justice is when everyone receives exactly what they deserve, good or bad. But a cursory look around our world reveals that justice does not prevail. Further, this seems to be the norm, and it appears for the most part that no one is doing anything about it. Perhaps more unsettling, injustice is seen all through the pages of Scripture. In Genesis 12 Abram lied to Pharaoh concerning his wife Sarai, so Pharaoh took her into his harem. God struck Pharaoh for taking Abram's wife, and he returned her to her husband. But there is no record of God punishing Abram for lying. In Genesis 2 God clearly states that the punishment for sin is death. In Genesis 3 Adam sinned and he didn't die immediately. However, in Acts 5 Ananias and Sapphira are struck dead by God for their sin. According to human reasoning God is anything but just.</p>
<p>"<em>I also observed under the sun: there is wickedness at the place of judgment and there is wickedness at the place of righteousness</em>." Ecclesiastes 3:16 (HCSB)</p>
<p>"<em>Again, I observed all the acts of oppression being done under the sun. Look at the tears of those who are oppressed; they have no one to comfort them. Power is with those who oppress them; they have no one to comfort them</em>." Ecclesiastes 4:1 (HCSB)</p>
<p>Is it hopeless to battle against injustice? Is God unjust? Is He truly perfect, or does He show favoritism to some and harshness to others? While we cannot begin to adequately explain God or His actions, we can go to the Scriptures for help with these questions.</p>
<p>"<em>For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.&nbsp;They are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus. God presented Him as a propitiation through faith in His blood, to demonstrate His righteousness, because in His restraint God passed over the sins previously committed. He presented Him to demonstrate His righteousness at the present time, so that He would be righteous and declare righteous the one who has faith in Jesus</em>." Romans 3:23-26 (HCSB)</p>
<p>Read the words of R. Kent Hughes in his <a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.lifewaystores.com/lwstore/product.asp?isbn=0891075240&amp;mscssid=7P63VSP2JSMV8K71K2MQ930KNSX0389C" target="_blank">commentary on Romans</a>: "In Christ's death the demands of God for justice against a sinful race are fully met, leaving Him free to be merciful to those who formerly merited only judgment."</p>
<p>"Simply put, in the past God did not pour out his full wrath on men for their sins. He was patient and merciful. Some might question His righteousness in doing this. However, in Jesus' death He demonstrated His wrath against sin. It is here - in Christ being the mercy seat - that we see the miraculous love and creativity of God. God found a way to forgive us and yet maintain His moral integrity. He forgave us without condoning our sin. How? By directing toward Himself, in the person of His Son, the full weight of the wrath we deserved. Thus God's holy character is not compromised" (page 85).</p>
<p>There is hope in standing against injustice. God has demonstrated His justice in the cross. He will ultimately judge the world in perfect justice and righteousness. "<em>I said to myself, God will judge the righteous and the wicked, since there is a time for every activity and every work</em>." Ecclesiastes 3:17 (HCSB). Until that time yet in the future, Solomon gives us some guidelines for how we are to strive for justice in our world. Ecclesiastes 8:2-9 teaches us to:</p>
<ul>
<li>Live right consistently (2)</li>
<li>Be patient when looking for ways to help others (3)</li>
<li>Follow appropriate protocol so our desire to help will not make matters worse (4-6)</li>
<li>Honor those in authority (7-9)</li>
</ul>
<p>In Ecclesiastes 8:10-13 Solomon declares that we need not despair. There is hope for change, in our world, and in the future judgment before God. Our efforts to promote justice are not in vain. The God who personifies justice will use us as His instruments to bring about hope and justice to the oppressed. We cannot remedy all injustice, but we can each do something.</p>
<p><a class="offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.imb.org/main/news/details.asp?StoryID=8281&amp;LanguageID=1709" target="_blank">Give to SBC Baptist Global Response to assist with Haiti Relief efforts</a></p>
<p><a class="offsite offsite-link-inline" href="http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=53089FAF43762126" target="_blank">Follow this link</a> to a YouTube Video Playlist of 19 videos related to the themes of this month's Bible Studies for Life study in Ecclesiastes.</p>]]></content></entry></feed>