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Thursday
Apr152010

BSFL Sunday School commentary for the week of April 18, 2010

The Right Motivation     2 Corinthians 5

 

Which of the images above best describe your motivation for pleasing God?

In his book "The Shape of Faith to Come" (Broadman, Nashville, 2008), Brad Waggoner reveals that only 37% of adults who attend a Protestant church at least once a month claim to live their lives to please God. What do the other 63% live for? What do you live for?

As believers we have been redeemed by the precious blood of Jesus Christ. His death on the cross satisfied God's righteous judgment upon our sin. Jesus took our place. We no longer need to fear death or being separated from God. We owe Jesus everything! Therefore, we are to make it our aim to be pleasing to Him. God's redemption and blessing are without cost; but He will hold us accountable for how we used our redeemed lives for His purposes. This judgment Paul speaks of in 2 Corinthians 5:10 is for believers only. Our sin has been forever judged at the cross. This judgment is about our stewardship. We will receive reward or be embarrassed before the One who died for us.

The Apostle Paul was convinced that he (and we) would stand before God in judgment, but he was also compelled by the love of God. That God would sacrifice His only Son to die for the sin of others completely astounded Paul. Such a love should be received; and such a love must be proclaimed! The term "compels us" in 2 Corinthians 5:14 is the word used to refer to people suffering with diseases in Matthew 4:24 and Luke 4:38. Paul was literally sick with Christ's love! That is why he made the comment about "being out of our mind". Evidently some accused Paul of being crazy, due to his actions in serving Christ. Indeed, even when later standing before King Agrippa for judgment, Paul tried to convert him and was told, "You are beside yourself! Much learning has made you mad!" (Acts 26:24-29). Paul's love for Christ, and being overwhelmed with Christ's love for him, drove Paul to lose himself in the service of Christ. Do you love Jesus enough to serve Him, no matter what or where?

God's purpose for us all is that we be reconciled to Him through the sacrifice of Jesus, and that we in turn spread the Gospel (Good News) of this reconciliation to everyone. Paul used the word ambassador; we are ambassadors for Christ. We are Christ's representatives here on earth. The only way people will hear of Christ's great love and sacrifice is if we share it with them. God is indeed appealing to the world of humanity through us. We plead with people on God's behalf. Ours is a Gospel of rescue! We need to be more desperate in our efforts to share Christ with the world around us.

Fear, guilt, and manipulation will only motivate for a short period of time. After a while we will no longer fear, stop feeling guilty and grow tired of being manipulated. Such impure motivations only lead to frustration, doubt, anger, and desertion from the cause. We will be judged by God for our service to Him; but we will also be held accountable for our motivations. Do we serve Christ out of love for Him, concern for the lost, and a desire to please Him in all things? Or do we serve for lesser reasons?

 

Friday
Mar192010

BSFL Life Truths Sunday School commentary for the week of March 21, 2010

Selfish?     1 Corinthians 8,10

When believers insist on their own rights with no thought of how their actions will bring glory to God, the body of Christ suffers. Love for fellow believers and the pursuit of God's glory trump every right we have as Christ-followers. Therefore, we must evaluate all our perceived "rights" in terms of how they impact our fellow believers, and how they bring glory to God and advance His Kingdom purposes.

The issue in view at the church at Corinth was eating meat that had been offered to idols. For those with a history of idol worship before coming to follow Christ, they had vivid memories of pagan sacrifices and the demonic spirits often associated with such sacrifices. Naturally, they wanted to distance themselves as much as possible from all former pagan practices. For them to eat meat purchased in the marketplace that had been sacrificed to idols was a gross stain on their faith in Christ. Other believers viewed this issue from a logical standpoint and knew that dead idols can have no effect on meat. The meat was just meat and was perfectly acceptable to eat.

The problem was not as much with the meat as it was with attitudes. Those who knew they could eat the meat without sin were puffed up with their knowledge, and prideful, viewing the other believers as immature and weak. They lorded their superior knowledge over the others. The believers who could not in good conscience eat the meat saw the others as sinful and loose in their standards. Who is right? Who needs to give ground?

While we have few arguments over meat these days, there are plenty of other issues that believers get hung up on. You can probably name a few right now. How would you evaluate your choices as they relate to their impact on the spiritual growth of others? Many believers do not consider their actions or how they affect others. They insist on having their way with no consideration for others at all. The video below is a comical yet accurate portrayal of their actions.

Do you live your life in a way that benefits others and brings glory to God? Or do you stubbornly insist on having things your own way and pleasing yourself? Your answer indicates who is more important - Christ or yourself. If Christ is more important, we will only act in a way that brings others to Him and pleases Him. Our own desires and rights do not matter in light of our allegiance to Him. After all, think of all the rights Jesus gave up to be the sacrifice for our sin?

Christians at different levels of spiritual maturity will always see things from varying perspectives. We cannot focus our energy on arguing over who is right. For the sake of unity and Kingdom advancement we must instead focus on giving way in love and submission. Let the following Scriptures speak for themselves. May they be our guide in Christian liberty and responsibility.

"Now when you sin like this against the brothers and wound their weak conscience, you are sinning against Christ. Therefore, if food causes my brother to fall, I will never again eat meat, so that I won’t cause my brother to fall."  1 Corinthians 8:12-13 (HCSB)

"Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for God’s glory. Give no offense to the Jews or the Greeks or the church of God, just as I also try to please all people in all things, not seeking my own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved."  1 Corinthians 10:31-33 (HCSB)

"For although I am free from all people, I have made myself a slave to all, in order to win more people. To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win Jews; to those under the law, like one under the law—though I myself am not under the law—to win those under the law. To those who are outside the law, like one outside the law—not being outside God’s law, but under the law of Christ—to win those outside the law. To the weak I became weak, in order to win the weak. I have become all things to all people, so that I may by all means save some. Now I do all this because of the gospel, that I may become a partner in its benefits."  1 Corinthians 9:19-23 (HCSB)

 

Tuesday
Feb232010

Growing Love That Lasts a Lifetime

Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!

Section Three: Growing Love That Lasts a Lifetime

"Love....bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."

1 Corinthians 13:7-8 (NKJV)

In the movie 'Fireproof', Caleb Holt's friend Michael Simmons makes the following statement: "Do you know what that ring on your finger means? It means that you made a lifelong covenant. The sad part about it is when most people say 'for better or for worse', they really only mean for the better."

    I.        Love 'Bears All Things'

The word 'bears' literally means 'to cover silently or protectively'. When our spouse or child makes a blunder we are faced with three choices:

  • Express our disappointment to the point of demeaning their character and deflating their spirit.
  • Belittle them for embarrassing us, thereby transferring your shame to them.
  • Minimize their hurt, shame, embarrassment, and pain by lovingly protecting them and supporting them.

"And above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8 (NKJV)

 II.        Love 'Believes All Things'

Love is always eager to believe the best. Love gives the benefit of the doubt.

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)

 III.       Love 'Hopes All Things'

We must embrace hope in our relationships! In 1 Corinthians 13:13 hope is linked to faith and love as the greatest Christian virtues. Hope allows us to love someone in the present while banking on a better future with them tomorrow.

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NKJV)

 IV.        Love 'Endures All Things'

This phrase literally means 'to remain under the load'. Take a look at the most common wedding vows:

  • Love
  • Honor
  • Cherish
  • Forsaking All Others
  • Richer or Poorer
  • Better or Worse
  • Sickness and Health
  • Until death do you Part

These vows are bristling with commitment. Love that lasts a lifetime means commitment. Commitment means you never leave your partner, especially in a fire.

Suggested Actions:

  • PRAY - Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to confess all negative actions toward your spouse or children as SIN. Ask God to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Choose one of the four attributes above and focus on it for a week.
  • MEMORIZE - Memorize all of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with sacrificial love, particularly Christ's love for the church that is the model for our marriage relationships.
  • ACT - Choose one of the four attributes above and focus on it for a week. Share these truths with your spouse and tell them of your commitment to love them for the long haul.

Suggested Resources:

The 5 Love languages, by Dr. Gary Chapman. Northfield Publishing. ISBN - 0802473156.

This material in a downloadable file (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)

Thursday
Feb182010

Defending Against Love Assassins

Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!

Section Two: Defending Against Love Assassins

"Love....does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil."

1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV)

The Bible is full of shady characters. One of those was an assassin named Ehud. You can find his story tucked away in Judges 3:12-30. 

After 18 years of serving Eglon, the King of Moab, the Israelites prayed for a deliverer. And God answered their prayers by raising up Ehud, a southpaw from the tribe of Benjamin. As his first official act he led a delegation of Jews to deliver the tribute tax, to King Eglon. Unknown to his traveling companions, Ehud had made a two-edge dagger and concealed it under his clothes on his right thigh.

Once he had delivered the tribute, Ehud returned to Eglon's palace pretending to have a secret message from God for the King. King Eglon sent everyone from the room and locked the door. When the King stood up Ehud plunged the dagger under Eglon's ribs, striking a fatal blow. Ehud then escaped through the back window. By the time anyone knows what has happened, Ehud has brought an army back to defeat the Moabites and free the Israelites.

Now you may be wandering what that story has to do with "Making Love Last a Lifetime." Not much, except this - today we will learn about assassins. With a quick stroke of his pen, Paul identifies four assassins. We call them "love assassins" because of the damage they inflict on loving relationships. Chances are, you have felt the pain of one of these attacks on your relationships.

  • Love Assassin #1: Rudeness - The word 'rude' literally means 'ugly', or 'shapeless'. Love doesn't embarrass others publicly, behave shamefully, act tactless or disgraceful, or treat others rudely.

Love's Defense Against Rudeness - Courtesy. Love acts with grace and respect toward others, especially those in our closest relationships. "Therefore, God's chosen ones, holy and loved, put on heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience." Colossians 3:12 (HCSB)

  • Love Assassin #2: Rivalry - "...does not seek its own" is literally 'not seeking one's self', or 'not seeking to advance one's self'. Love doesn't insist on its own way or engage in unhealthy competition.

Love's Defense Against Rivalry - Humility. It is simply putting others first. "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others." Philippians 2:3-4 (NKJV)

  • Love Assassin #3: Rage - Rage literally means 'to sharpen alongside'. The sharp anger of rage is the rage of the day. We see it displayed everywhere. Truly our culture is easily 'provoked'.

Love's Defense Against Rage - Self-Control. Love assumes the best and does not make rash judgments. When we are under control we demonstrate love and consideration. "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is now law." Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)

  • Love Assassin #4: Resentment - "Thinks no evil" in verse 5 is literally 'keeps no record of injuries'. Love doesn't keep a diary of disappointment or the threat of retaliation. When we relive the hurts from others, we are keeping them fresh in our memory and cultivating resentment and anger.

Love's Defense Against Resentment - Forgiveness. Forgiving means forgetting! Forgiveness includes choosing not to allow hurts that have been forgiven to affect our decision-making, attitudes, or actions. "If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear." Psalm 66:18 (NKJV)

Suggested Actions:

  • PRAY - Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to confess these love assassins as SIN. Ask Him to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Choose one defense a week and pray for that attribute to bloom.
  • MEMORIZE - Memorize all five of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with courtesy, humility, self-control, and forgiveness.
  • ACT - Take any actions necessary to eliminate these assassins from your relationship.

Suggested Resources:

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices that Make or Break Loving Relationships, by Henry Cloud & John Townsend. Zondervan Publishing Company. ISBN - 0310278139

This material in a downloadable file (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)

 

Wednesday
Feb172010

Content With Your House & With Your Spouse

Due to the positive response following the recent message series "Making Love Last for a Lifetime", and for those who have requested more help in the area of relationships, I have written down some of the teachings from the series, plus some extra help with each topic. A link is provided at the end of this material where it can be downloaded and printed in its entirety for easier usage. Review each topic, its basic truths, and then complete the assignments, including the scriptures for memorization. The key to realizing lasting and positive change in your relationships is the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. He will work through prayer, God's Word, and our efforts to transform us and fill our relationships with love that lasts a lifetime!

Section One: Battling Envy & Cultivating Contentment

"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up."

1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV)

Envy has a long and sordid past with its origin in the very heart of Satan. Isaiah 14:12-15 records Satan's jealousy of God's throne and deity, and his desire to steal them away. Ever since envy became his own downfall, Satan has realized its power for the destruction of human relationships. From Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden to the present day, mankind boils with envy for what belongs to another. In fact, the Greek word for envy is 'zelo', literally meaning "to boil".

Envy does not just grow overnight, like dandelions. It develops over time.

  • Stage One: Discontentment

We become discontent with unfulfilled expectations. Never mind that our expectations are unreasonable or even impossible. We have made unequal and unfair comparisons to which no one can measure up.

  • Stage Two: Disillusionment

Confusion sets in due to our unfulfilled expectations. "I never thought it would be like this..." We become negative toward that which does not measure up.

  • Stage Three: Deception

The unfair comparisons intensify. We deceive ourselves into thinking that something or someone else is better. But we cannot see the whole picture, only the outer facade. We become infatuated with an illusion.

  • Stage Four: Desire

We become convinced that the illusion can bring happiness or significance. We fool ourselves into thinking that we cannot live without it.

  • Stage Five: Destruction

We chase the illusion no matter what the cost to our current relationship. And then we discover that it is just an illusion. No one could possibly be as perfect as we had thought. Our relationship is now severely damaged. We have crashed and burned.

The music video "Slow Fade" by Casting Crowns gives a poignant illustration to this process.

 

How can we battle envy and cultivate contentment?

  1. Confess the SIN of Envy - It is a brutal sin that made God's TOP TEN list! (Ten Commandments - Number 10: "You shall not covet" [envy] Exodus 20:17) Confession must be followed by repentance! Turn away in sorrow from envy and ask God's help to defeat it completely! "For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there." James 3:16 (NKJV)
  2. Control Your Thoughts - Your mind is the front line of the battleground for your relationship. Build adequate defenses! We cannot always control or avoid temptation, but we can control our mind. Eliminate whatever tempts you to compare and envy. "Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NKJV)
  3. Cultivate Contentment - Love is content with the object of its affection. Love is a decision, not a ficle emotion. Choose to love your spouse unconditionally and choose to be content. Stop looking to others and making comparisons. Choose to be satisfied with what (and who) you have. "Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have." Hebrews 13:5a (NKJV)

 

Suggested Actions:

  • PRAY - Pray for the strength of the Holy Spirit to control your thoughts and resist temptation. Ask Him to grow a greater love in you for your spouse. Confess your struggle to him or her and ask them to agree in prayer with you.
  • MEMORIZE - Memorize all four of the Scriptures printed above. Saturate your mind with the Scriptures. Find additional verses to memorize that deal with envy, covetousness, and contentment.
  • ACT - Take any actions necessary to remove the temptation to compare (let Philippians 4:8 be your guide).

Suggested Resources:

The Love Dare, by Stephen and Alex Kendrick. B&H Publishing Group. ISBN - 0805448853

The Secret to the Marriage You Want, by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott. Lifeway Church Resources. ISBN - 1415868166 (member book)

This material in a downloadable file (Microsoft Word 1997-2003)